Losing a furry family member

This week's blog hits close to home, as we recently lost our beloved "bugg" (Boston Terrier/Pug mix), Buster.  He was 15 years old, and although he was slowing down a bit, his illness was quick and death unexpected. Our family is having a hard time adjusting without him, but we want everyone who has gone through this to know grief is different for everyone. Losing a beloved pet can be an incredibly challenging experience. For many of us, pets are more than just animals; they're cherished members of our families, providing us with unconditional love, companionship, and joy. Here are some ways that may help us all who have gone through this.



Allow yourself to grieve: It's important to recognize and accept your feelings of sadness, grief, and even anger. Losing a pet is a significant loss, and it's okay to mourn deeply. Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions arise and understand that grieving is a natural process.

Seek support: Don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or support groups who understand the bond you shared with your pet. Talking about your feelings with others who have experienced similar losses can provide comfort and validation. If you're struggling to cope, consider seeking the guidance of a therapist or counselor who can offer professional support.

Create a memorial: Honoring your pet's memory can be a comforting way to cope with their loss. Consider creating a memorial or tribute to celebrate their life, such as planting a tree or flowers in their honor, setting up a dedicated photo collage or memory box, or even writing a heartfelt letter or poem. We have a large sofa in our bedroom sitting area and we get pillows made of each of our dogs, so they are always with us and we feel their presence. 

Keep a routine: Maintaining a sense of normalcy can be helpful in coping with grief. Stick to your daily routines as much as possible, including regular mealtimes, exercise, and sleep schedules. Keeping busy can also be a distraction from overwhelming sadness. This also helps your other pets who may be missing their sibling.  Allow them to grieve as well while keeping some normalcy.

Take care of yourself: Remember to prioritize self-care during this difficult time. Make sure to eat healthily, exercise regularly, get enough rest, and engage in activities that bring you comfort and joy. Practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can also help reduce stress and promote emotional healing.

Consider adopting or fostering: While it may take time to heal from the loss of your pet, some people find comfort in providing a loving home to another animal in need. If you feel ready, consider adopting or fostering a new pet when the time is right. Opening your heart to a new furry friend can bring joy and companionship back into your life. If you can't do that, donate in your pup's honor in some way.

Seek closure: Saying goodbye to your pet in a meaningful way can help provide closure and begin the healing process. Consider holding a small memorial service or ceremony, where you can share stories, memories, and emotions with loved ones. You may also find comfort in creating a special keepsake, such as a paw print or piece of jewelry, to cherish their memory.

​Remember, everyone grieves differently, and there's no right or wrong way to cope with the loss of a pet. Give yourself the time and space you need to heal, and know that it's okay to seek support when you need it. Your pet may no longer be physically with you, but their love and the memories you shared together will always hold a special place in your heart.

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Buster 6/29/09 - 2/12/24